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The bell rang to begin period 3. It was Wednesday morning, and this was the geometry class that had been assembled by changing twenty-three students’ schedules a week into the school year. The room assignments had been made previously, and Room E, the converted storage room where I taught from periods 2 through 4, only had room for twenty-three desks. The school intended to use this room only for freshman classes, for which the state at the time provided extra money to keep the class sizes small. Since this schedule change had been made in the middle of the second week of the school year, the administration limited enrollment in my period 3 geometry to twenty-three students, even though there was no state money for small geometry classes. I was told that rooms would be reassigned halfway through the year, and that this class would get larger and move to a larger room. Despite all that headache at the start of the year, things had settled down now.
I had written on the board the page I wanted the class to turn to. As soon as the bell rang, I looked up for empty desks and compared this to the seating chart to see who was absent, and I marked the absent students on the weekly attendance bubble sheet. Someone from the office would come pick up the bubble sheet about halfway through the period; this would then be scanned into the student information system. Keeping a seating chart made the process of taking attendance go so much faster. I also used the seating chart to keep students apart if they tended to distract each other when sitting in close proximity. “Rafael is absent?” I called out. I did not hear a response, so I filled in the bubble for Rafael. I saw one other empty desk and announced, “Kaylee is absent?”
“I’m right here,” a soft voice said to the left of where I was looking. I turned my head; Kaylee Santos was standing right next to my desk, just out of my field of vision when I had called her name. She was a small, thin girl, and so far she had gotten As and Bs in everything in my class. “I need to ask you something,” Kaylee continued, nervously.
“What is it?”
“Can I have tomorrow’s assignment?” she asked. “I’m not gonna be here. I’m doing something with my family.” She spoke slowly and hesitantly; whatever she was doing tomorrow with her family was clearly not something she wanted to talk about. Probably a funeral. This must have been a difficult time for her, losing a loved one. I would make sure to be extra nice to her in class today.
“Yes,” I said. “Of course. I’ll give it to you before you leave. Remind me at the end of class if I forget.”
“Thanks,” she said, giving me a small smile and going back to her seat.
I liked this class. I knew that it would get more difficult in January when they moved the class to a larger room and gave me more students. And there were some students who were failing badly, mostly because they did not do their work and never asked for help or participated. But it was a relatively well-behaved class, and in general, this class of only twenty-three students stayed quieter than my other two geometry classes of thirty-one and thirty, respectively, in the larger room.
I gave the students time to start their homework at the end of the period. I saw Kaylee out of the corner of my eye as I walked back to my desk, remembering that she had asked for tomorrow’s assignment because she had a family funeral to go to. I looked through my notes and found the assignment in question. I wrote the page number and problem numbers on a scrap of paper and handed it to Kaylee as she sat at her desk working.
“Thank you,” she said quietly.
Later that day, I had geometry in the normal-sized Room C-6 for periods 6 and 7. Because Jorgensen High School was overcrowded, most teachers taught in different rooms throughout the day so that every room would be used every period. I did not have a class period 5, and both of my rooms were used by other teachers, so most days I went to the lunch room and got work done there during that period.
I took attendance at the beginning of period 6, scanning the room for empty desks and marking the absent students on the attendance sheet while I gave students a problem to work on. I had overhead projector slides for today’s lesson that I had written with a wet-erase overhead marker during my morning geometry class in the other classroom. I did this every day, writing the slides during that class and saving them to use them for the other two classes. I put up the slide for a problem from last night’s homework that I wanted to go over with the class, with everything covered up except for the first step; I would reveal the worked-out problem one step at a time. “What do we do now?” I asked. I shuffled the cards on which I had written the students’ names, and pulled a card. “Pablo?” I called. I looked over at Pablo’s desk.
The boy in Pablo’s seat was not Pablo. I had never seen this kid before. He had messy hair and bad acne. I looked at him directly and said, “Who are you?” The kid in Pablo’s desk stared off into space, so I repeated my question. Others around him turned, trying to get his attention, and a few people across the room laughed.
“Huh?”
“Who are you? You’re not in this class.”
“Yeah I am.”
“He’s a new student,” someone said from the other side of the room.
I walked over to check his schedule to make sure he was in the right room. His schedule listed his name as Christopher; I was not sure whether or not he went by Chris, since he did not say anything when I asked his name. “So you just walked in and picked a seat? You didn’t even tell me who you were?” Christopher shrugged as I pointed to the only empty desk in the room, on the opposite side of the room. “That seat over there is empty. Someone else sits where you are now.”
Christopher carried his stuff to his proper seat and sat down. I walked to the door, where I had hung the attendance bubble sheet and filled in the bubble indicating that Pablo was absent. Later in the period, when I had a break, I went to the file cabinet and found copies of all the papers I handed out on the first day of school: the class rules, a paper for parents to fill out with their phone numbers, and questions for the students to answer about themselves so I can get to know them. I handed these to Christopher with instructions to fill them out and turn them in as soon as possible.
It was also my responsibility to issue him a textbook. I had exactly two extra textbooks; I grabbed one, wrote down the number on it, and took it to Christopher’s desk. “Here’s your textbook,” I said.
Christopher looked at me, confused, then said, “I have a book.” He reached into his backpack and pulled out a geometry textbook. I did not give him this book, and I had never seen this book before; it was not the textbook that we used at Jorgensen.
“What is that book?” I asked. “Where did you get that?”
“From my old school,” he explained, like it was the most obvious thing ever.
I flipped through the pages, trying to make sense of what happened, and I saw stamped on the first page: SAN DIEGO UNIFIED SCHOOL DISTRICT, SAN DIEGO, CALIF. “You brought this book with you from San Diego?”
“Yeah.”
“They didn’t ask for it back?”
“No.”
“This book belongs to your old school. You need to give it back. These books cost a lot of money.”
“They don’t care.”
“Yes, they do! You need to send it back. Either that, or they’ll send you a bill. They won’t send your transcripts to us until you return your book, or pay for it.”
“Huh?”
“We’re gonna ask your old school for your grades. They’ll notice that you haven’t returned your books, and they’ll make you pay for them.”
“No, they won’t.”
“Whatever,” I said, exasperated. “It’s not my problem. But don’t be surprised when you get a bill. And this is the book we use at Jorgensen.” I put the book on his desk.
“What page are we on?” he asked. I pointed to the board, where I had written the page number, and I went back to teaching. Was this really a thing? Did students who moved far away routinely steal textbooks from their old school and see nothing wrong with it? I shook my head.
Thursday morning, I found myself again taking attendance in period 3. As I always did, I looked around the classroom for empty seats, so that I could quickly mark students absent. My mind tended to jump all over the place as a teacher, with so many things I needed to keep track of, so when I first saw Kaylee’s empty desk, it did not register that we had spoken about this the day before. I just said, “Kaylee is absent?” Then I paused as my memory of yesterday came back, when Kaylee hesitantly asked me what she would miss because she would be at a funeral with her family. I added, “That’s right, I remember. She told me she wasn’t going to be here.”
Kaylee’s friend Alicia heard me and said, “She went to go see the Backstreet Boys.”
I stopped in my tracks and looked at Alicia. I thought, really? That was why she was skipping school today? I realized then that she never actually said that she was going to a funeral. I had just inferred that from the way she was talking. But, of all the fun things she was skipping school to do, it had to be the Backstreet Boys? I hated the Backstreet Boys. I hated boy bands in general, and all of the overly flashy pop music that had become so huge in the last couple years. I was more into what had been called alternative rock, although that word was losing a lot of its meaning. The name had been coined at some point in the 1980s to indicate rock music that had a different sound from the bombastic glam rock and heavy metal that had dominated the era. In the early 1990s, bands like R.E.M. and Nirvana that had been classified as alternative rock became mainstream, phasing out older glam rock bands like Guns N’ Roses and Motley Crüe and becoming the dominant force in rock music. This begged the question: what exactly was alternative rock the alternative to now?
The dominance of so-called alternative rock was subsiding these days, being replaced with a new generation of pop stars, including boy bands like the Backstreet Boys and this scantily-clad 17-year-old kid named Britney Spears. Boy bands were nothing new. My generation had the New Kids on the Block, for example. But to me, they all sounded equally bland and unoriginal. And the term “boy band” itself was a misnomer, as most boy bands just sang and danced. They did not play their own instruments or write their own songs. Britney Spears was even more detestable to me. She had a terrible voice. Her entire image was artificial and curated in order to be popular and sexy, and she was still legally a child, despite all the sexually suggestive lyrics and rumors of plastic surgery. This was offensive to my Christian values. Of course, my generation had Madonna performing sexually suggestive music, but Madonna was shocking and controversial in the 1980s, whereas this kind of thing was normal and celebrated coming from Britney Spears in 1999. Madonna also was not a minor; she was well into her twenties by the time she became popular. And, of course, I was also exactly the type of pedant who disapproved of the fact that Britney Spears’ parents did not even know how to spell Brittany correctly.
I continued running my class the way I had planned to. It was the front office’s decision whether or not to excuse Kaylee’s absence. I was not sure of the protocol, whether or not I should report to the office what I found out about the reason for her absence. I was not going to push for Kaylee to get in trouble, though. She was a good student, she had never caused problems in my class before, and as long as she continued attending school most of the time and getting her makeup work done, I would not make a fuss over her missing one day for an experience like this. A Backstreet Boys concert was not something that happened every day. I had done something similar just a few weeks ago, after all, when I had met my family in Bay City for the final Titans baseball game in the old stadium on a school day.
And there was a good chance that Kaylee had not lied to me at all. She never told me she was going to a funeral; she just said that she had something to do with her family. Maybe her whole family was going to the concert. Maybe her parents were Backstreet Boys fans too, or more likely, maybe her parents supported her interests and passions. Kaylee was only fifteen years old, not old enough to drive. A big concert tour like the Backstreet Boys would only be playing in big cities, so the show was probably in a large sports arena or stadium in Bay City, Oaksville, San Tomas, or Capital City, all of which were a significant distance from the school.
As I walked toward the overhead projector to get class started, a lot of students were noisily talking about things other than math. My afternoon classes were often like this, my Basic Math A classes were often like this, but period 3 geometry was usually the quiet class. Not today, apparently. I heard girls on the other side of the room arguing. Alicia, the one who told me where Kaylee actually was today, and a girl named Jessica in the desk next to her were animatedly in a heated discussion. “Three, two, one,” I counted down, standing in front of the white board, next to the overhead projector, waiting for the class to get quiet. Alicia and Jessica realized what was happening and stopped talking, but Jessica quickly raised her hand.
“Yes, Jessica?” I said.
“Is Alicia’s shirt maroon or burgundy?”
Really? I thought. What were these students thinking? We had work to do, the class was noisy and off task, students were skipping class to go see boy bands, and this was what they were arguing about this whole time? And why would they expect me to know this? Exasperated, I replied, “I’m a guy. It’s red.”
Kaylee was back on Friday. She only missed one day of school. She apparently bought a lot of merchandise at the concert, because she was wearing it all to school the next day. She walked into my classroom wearing a Backstreet Boys Into The Millennium Tour t-shirt. Around her neck she wore a Backstreet Boys lanyard, with her ticket stub in a plastic sleeve attached to it, along with the house key that she normally wore on a lanyard.
As she walked past me, I tried my best to hold back laughter as I said, “Welcome back, Kaylee. How was the concert?”
Kaylee looked up at me suspiciously, not making eye contact. “It was good,” she said, quietly. “How did you know?”
Really? I thought. You’re dressed like that, and you have to ask how I know? “This,” I said, gesturing toward her brand new shirt. “And I heard Alicia say that’s where you were yesterday.”
“Oh,” Kaylee replied, walking to her seat. I dropped the issue and went back to what I was doing.
I was not particularly upset with Kaylee. Her bland taste in music was unsurprising for a girl of her age, and it really was none of my business, not affecting my life in any meaningful way. And, while officially the school frowned upon students skipping classes to go to concerts, even with permission from parents, I did not think of this as a particularly serious offense. Kaylee had the natural consequence of having work to make up, but if she was capable and willing to do so, I did not see an inherent problem with her enjoying memorable life experiences every once in a while. After all, I had done the same thing when I went to the Titans game last month.
Something similar happened about six months later. A boy named Rich from my period 6 class was absent on the day of the first Titans game in the new stadium, and he came to school the next day wearing brand new Titans merchandise. I asked him how he liked the new stadium, and he answered nervously, knowing that he had been caught. I reminded him that we had a substitute on the day of the last game in the old stadium, and he smiled knowingly at me.
I never did find out what happened with Christopher and the textbook he brought with him from his old school in San Diego. That one just blew my mind that he would have not even thought to return his book, and that he brought it with him when he moved five hundred miles away, and that with all that disregard for school property, he would remember to bring it to school here. I did not stress over it much; it was not my problem, and not my job to enforce anything.
I have told people many times, in hindsight, that although it sounded odd to hear a teacher say this, I have always wished that I had spent a little less time studying and more time experiencing life with friends. The night I played sardines in the Death Star building, the night I slept on the beach at Moonlight Cove, watching those silly boys from church make a snow toilet at Winter Camp, those memories made a much more lasting emotional impact on me than any memory involving finding the determinant of a matrix or proving that an algebraic group was abelian. So, good for Kaylee for taking the time to go see the concert, and for being responsible enough to make sure she knew what she was missing in class. And as much as I was still not a fan of boy bands, a few songs from that era have grown on me a little over the years, purely for the nostalgia.
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